What I Look For In A Guy

Okay well first off and most important I want a guy that truly loves god and wont just say that to get with me. Im so tired of dating guys that are atheist or ‘change’ so they can be with me cause they know im a christian. Im just sick of that because then i know that in the end of the relationship chances are we wont even be friends anymore because our relationship wasnt based on something. I hate hook ups… i want a relationship that is based on God. I’ve realized lately that your either in a relationship and you get married, or your in a relationship and you break up. That break up can either be awful and the girl and maybe even the guy is depressed and upset, or you break up and you can look back and say wow that was a great relationship im sad it didn’t work out but im happy that i got to know that person better and can still be great friends. I also believe that before a relationship happens that the boy that i want to/might date MUST BE MY BROTHER IN CHRIST FIRST. That is a huge one because if he isn’t a brother in christ first then how will you know that the relationship will work out. Most of the time if they aren’t friends before a friendship there is no chance that it will work out because they didnt get to know each other and find out if they really like each other. I must see his willingness to protect me, edify me, and encourage me so that I am are constantly transforming into the woman of Proverbs 31. Thats were trust comes in.. if I can trust a guy as a friend then I can be sure that I can trust him in the relationship, trust that he’ll be there for me, that he wont just abandon me, trust that he wont cheat on me, and trust that after its all said and done we would still be able to be good friends. Ive had a lot of relationship troubles in the past and I’ve realized I do have to set my standards higher so I can protect myself from getting hurt anymore. I can’t wear my heart on my sleeve. Purity is also I big thing. I’ve done a lot of things that I am in noooooo way proud of &+ if I could go back and do it again I totally would. A relationship can’t be based on making out or whatever it might be… I would never make out with my brother in christ (: thats a little disturbing haha. What do you think about making out with your sister in christ? (: A little creepy right? I ain’t into the whole courting thing really, but I do think there has to be boundaries and those boundaries have to be agreed on and can’t be broken. Don’t think that I don’t care about the guys feelings because I do. I know that the guys, no matter who they are, how much they love God, or how much they care about the girl, they will still have lustful thoughts and thats where scripture comes in. In dating relationships, if the two parties have gone too far physically, they have tied their emotions and personal wholeness to what was physical. So when one or both decides that it isn’t going to work, devastation is what remains in the heart of one or both. I think that the guy that I date needs to jump through hoops to prove that he cares and likes/loves me, because if he does he would do anything to prove that he cares and not loose me. Dont think I’m crazy it’s not like I would tell him to jump off a bridge (: But he would have to prove to me that he really does care. That’s mostly the big points of what I would want in a guy.I know that no guy is perfect. I’ve just realized I need to start setting my standards higher and if I find a guy thats man enough to live up to these standards then I will know that he truly cares (: Sorry this is kinda long lol.

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